Every individual is capable of and deserves compassion. More often than not we may feel disconnected from our partner. We feel the crisis, lack of connecting, and an empty emotional account. We all want to be great lovers and maintain healthy relationships. But how?
Research has proven a simple fact: small things can often create big changes over time.
Even if you want to reconnect with your partner, you need to find out how you can impress her. You could get your wife a diamond necklace. Or maybe you could buy her the dream car she's always wanted.
But do you think will actually work?
Let's suppose that you haven't taken her out for a dinner for a long and haven't asked her a single question in the last few years. In this case, you fail at showing her fondness and admiration.
Later in the night, if she is down next to you on the couch and shows you a picture of a romantic getaway in Italy and excitedly asks, "Isn't this beautiful?"
And if you reply, "Can't you see I'm working? Will you be quiet for some time!" you again fail at turning to her needs when she tries to connect with you.
So what can you do to make your relationship more romantic?
Do you think the idea of a diamond necklace and a new car will work? Naaaa! She will possibly throw the necklace on the ground and use the new Mercedes to drive over it a few times for good measure.
Try to grab the micro-moments of love rather than these things. Spent time together talk more share more and start cultivating the grind of everyday life. Little meaningless moments of connection are the most meaningful connection to life.
Try to build trust, emotional connection, and a passionate life with your partner.
According to Dr Gottman, most couple fights are not always about money or in-laws but rather about a failure to connect emotionally.
Your emotional bank account is the main factor in a relationship
Each and every time you and your partner turn towards each other, you make a mark in each other's emotional bank account. And that small momentary connection helps you in building relationships which can be used as a savings of love during hard times.
A couple who has more positive deposits than negative is less likely to distrust each other during hard times. But if your emotional bank account is in great debt of disconnection, then your trust and intimacy have a chance of eroding away.
So whenever you feel disconnected, invest in your emotional bank to reconnect with your partner.