Breakups are heartbreaking and are one of the worst phases of life which can either make you or break you. It is totally your choice how you take it because different people have different ways of dealing with pain.
Some boldly accept the situation whereas others run from the situation. Some start feeling positive while others face depression, loneliness etc. Some don’t even feel like stepping out of the bed while others start stalking their ex-partner on social media.
Amidst of all, some go down the memory lane and think about the good times, just to analyse what went wrong in the relationship and contemplate whether it is a good idea to get back with your ex-partner or not.
But before you make up your mind to get back with your ex-partner, here are some questions you must ask yourself:
Question yourself why do you want him/her back
The very first thing you need to ask yourself before looking for ways on how to get your ex-partner back into life, is “Why do I exactly want to get his/her in my life? What is the need of it? Does he/her deserve to be in my life?”
Take your time and be honest with yourself because whatever you decide is ultimately for your own benefit. It's your life, so take your time to arrive at a conclusion.
It is very normal to feel lonely after a break-up and miss all the good moments you have shared.But that must not be the only reason to bring your ex back.
You could be fearing that you won’t find someone better or that you will never be happy again without him/her. You might dread that he/she is the only one and you will not be able to love someone else the same way again.
Overcome your fear
Make decisions which are good for youYou may even fear what your friends and family would think, what will you answer them about the breakup. For all such reasons, you may feel going back to your ex-partner would make everything normal again. But that's not right because you should make decisions which are good for you and not for 'log kya kahenge' or the benefit of what society will say.
You may also think that both of you are still in love with each other, and could make your relationship work with some extra effort. But before you take any impulse action, rethink the situation and the real reason behind the break-up.
Think and decide
Think twice before making any decisionIf you are confident about stepping back into the relationship for all the right reasons, make sure that your ex-partner should be equally willing to give the relationship another chance and put efforts to make it work.
And with any chance, if you think that going back to your ex-partner would make matters worse, then you should not, take time and be extra strong. Because after a few days of breakup you may go through good and bad days, then you can feel tempted to get your ex back. But you need to accept the reality and realise that this a temporary phase and life has many other amazing things in store for you.
Like most people, you might consider the idea of being friends with your ex-lover seems harmless, no? Until and unless you both have completely moved on in life, being friends might complicate the matters.
Enjoy your own company
Love yourself first The only time you can be sure about your decision is only when you start enjoying your own company. First, fall in love with yourself and only after that, think if your ex-partner can add something more to your already existing happy world. Only then should you decide whether it would be wise to date him or her again.