Now that you have taken a decision to end your marriage, nobody is going to stop you. But, before that, at least you can ask yourself a few questions before you leave your marriage.
There’s no harm in it and nobody else is going to be involved in this question and answer session. It is going to be between your mind and your heart, and for some questions, with your spouse.
So, here are those questions you need to give some serious consideration before initiating this legal battle with your partner.
1. Why did you fall in love with your partner?
Ask yourself “What made you so mad for him?”Once upon a time, you and your partner were madly in love with each other. Ask yourself “What made you so mad for him?”, “Why did you fall in love with him?” Then see from when things began to go wrong. By focusing on what brought you together, you can take a decision to retry and rework on your married life to save it from divorce. A little self-analysis may help you decide what you should do to get things back on track.
2. What is that one thing that can save your marriage?
Pen down the things that are creating confusion in your mindWriting gives a lot of clarity and helps to take decisions. It is always a good idea to pen down the things that are creating confusion in your mind. You can write the pros and cons of separating from your partner. It may include, love, finance, house, your life and everything. This list can help you rethink on your decision of getting divorced. You both need to do it. One sided list won’t help so it’s important that both of you do this exercise.
3. What is it that you can change to make things better?
You both need to discuss that and then work on it.Look at all the issues that have created problems in your married life. Now see, what it is that is in your control to change. If that problem is because of you, then you can definitely work on it but if those issues lie solely with your spouse, then you don't have any control over them whatsoever. You both need to discuss that and then work on it. You both need to be willing to make efforts to change those things.
4. Do you still love him or her?
You can rethink on your decision of taking divorceIf you feel you still love him, divorce may still be the answer because there are a lot of reasons for living separately despite love. Besides, hatred and anger come from love in the heart for each other. If you think you still love him or her and the thought of living without your partner doesn’t give nice feelings, then you can rethink on your decision of taking divorce.
5. Are you prepared for the financial stress?
It is better to start thinking about finances as early as possible.You should think about it the moment you take this decision of divorce. So, ask yourself how you are going to deal with the financial stress during and after divorce. Do you have a secured job? Do your parents support you? It is better to start thinking about the finances as early as possible. A lot of things change when you separate from the one you once shared your life with. It’s important to have clarity on finances before even initiating divorce.