Relationships are the major essence of life. And when you are in love or in a serious relationship with your partner, you obviously plan for a lifetime of togetherness. So, you should pause and plan for a moment to make your parents aware of this relationship.
Before your parents start searching for a ‘rich and handsome’ groom for you, you need to disclose the existence of a perfect partner to your family. But the question is when should you exactly do it?
Also, shouldn’t you first be sure that this is the right time to take your relationship to the next level?
Here are some points you should consider before taking this plunge:
1. Are you 100 per cent sure he’s the one?
The very first thing you need to do is ask yourself. Are you sure that you are truly in love with him and see him as your future husband?
Introducing him to your family is surely a very big deal and there might be no looking back once you introduce your boyfriend to your family.
Hence, it is really important to be sure about your own feelings and expectations from this relationship before taking a call.
2. How long have you been dating each other?
The initial months of every relationship are generally a ‘honeymoon’ phase. Most couples enjoy this phase very much -- everything is romantic and life and your relationship seem no less than a fairy tale.
But before taking any major step, you should understand the pros and cons of being in a relationship with your boyfriend. This is only possible when you have dated him for quite some time.
So, before you introduce your boyfriend to your family, make sure you love your boyfriend despite his faults and flaws and embrace him for the person he is.
3. About the finances
With love, finances also play an important role. This is another logical point to consider before making the move. Like every parent, your parents will also look over how both of you will manage your financial matters once you start living together.
Therefore, before taking any serious step to ask yourself whether you both are professionally stable, think whether you are financially secure enough to afford a comfortable living.
So before you introduce your boyfriend to your family, be ready to answer any finance- related questions asked by your parents.
4. Life after marriage
Life is not a bed of roses -- it keeps on taking unexpected turns. Once you tie the knot, as you might have different expectations from your boyfriend, things might change. Before you take any step, stop to think twice about what kind of life you would like to have after marriage. Would you like to work or be a homemaker?
Discuss all relevant questions – whether you will change your last name, how household chores will be shares, plans to have a baby, looking after both set of parents, managing the loans of house and/or car etc.
Having such a kind of discussion will make things clear and will bring both of you on the same page and prepare you to answer your parents’ queries confidently.
5. What does he think?
You might have been thinking of introducing your boyfriend to your parents, but is he even prepared for this move?
Again, before making any decision or introducing your boyfriend to your family, try to step into his shoes to make sure he is also willing for the same and only after being fully sure take things ahead only when he’s 100 per cent comfortable with your decision.
6. Follow your gut feeling
If you and your boyfriend have discussed everything and you are still having second thoughts about your decision, try to understand your gut feeling and take a call according to it. Once you tie the knot, it will be tough for you to go back on your decision.
You know the person you have dated for quite some time and there must be a reason you both are still together, right?
Trust your instinct and simply go with the flow, before introducing your boyfriend to your family.