Staying friends with your ex is an age old question that has been haunting love experts since time immemorial. Everyone has different views on this sensitive subject. But, mostly people tell you not to be friends with your ex. Even research shows that people who remain friends with their ex experience less emotional support, lack of any camaraderie, less trust in the friendship. It is an altogether a painful experience that you can surely avoid. But, do you want to?
If the answer is yes, then here we enlist you 7 extremely bad reasons for remaining friends with your ex and why you shouldn't do it:
Sharing the same set of friends:
You have the right to spend time with your friends, even if you guys share the same one! However, that doesn't mean you need to be friends with your ex. Be polite, courteous. But you don't need to be overly friendly just for the sake of your friends.
You feel bad for them:
Granted, breakups are hard to deal with. When your ex wants to remain friend with you, s/he might be going through an emotional time. But that doesn't mean you need to nurse their broken heart. It is unhealthy and leaves you feeling burdened. Get rid of the guilt and live free!
You are lonely:
Hey, being friends with your ex whom you still love is no reason to be friends with them. We know you might feel lonely after the breakup. But, it is a very weak premise for a friendship that won't stand the test of time. It is better to move on and find a new hobby.
You want to know what's happening in their life:
Staying friends with your ex just to keep a tab on their lives is unadvisable. Being their confidant in their dating life is unhealthy because they might be trying to move on and your efforts might have a bad effect on their love life.
You want to keep them as a second option till someone better comes:
Now that is totally unfair! Your ex is not your backup option. You are not giving yourself or them the chance to get on with your lives and find someone new. Don't play with someone's feelings because it will have a bad effect on your love life in the long run.
If they are still in love with you:
If your ex is clearly in love with you, then what is the point of being in their lives as friends- it won't let them move on and it will be a hindrance in your future dating life.
If you are still in love with them:
The same reason applies here also if you are still stuck up on your ex!
Being friends with your ex you still love or who loves you back is a disaster in waiting. When you guys don't have any ulterior motives for remaining friends is called a true friendship. Be discreet, be wise and see if you can be friends with your ex!
It is should be true friendship. If you nurture false hopes, do not waste time in trying to save your relationship from a breakup.