Most of us go through a situation at least once in our lifetime when the relationship we had been banking on, seems to fall apart and there is nothing we can do to make it whole again. We freak out and question ourselves - What the hell is going on? Why am I hurt this way every time? Why has my life become such a mess?
In such situation, you need to be extra strong and take the ultimate decision because this is your life. If you are not happy about something, you have the full right to leave that thing and move out. Whether it be a significant friend, family member or lover, if you don't feel compatible with the person, then it's best to let go.
It is the best thing you can do - even when it doesn't feel good in the present.
Relationships are carried forward with effort from both the sides. If it is just you putting in the effort, the relationship is bound to fall. So, decide before investing your time, money, and most importantly -emotion into something that will ultimately hurt you to that extent. The more you invest in a relationship, the more it shapes your choices and ultimately your life.
But when a relationship starts to deteriorate, sometimes no amount of care and time can salvage it. It will be good if you know when to let go. It is the key that will help you in maintaining your own mental health and well-being and move forward toward the better relationship you deserve.
Following are five signs that tell you it's time to let go of a relationship even if it doesn't make you feel good in the present.
1. You feel the love is gone:
Leave when you feel the love is gone It is very difficult to live in a situation when there is no goodness and love. Love is what holds relationships together. If you don't love each other, there is no support, admiration, respect, dedication, and commitment. Then for what are you putting in an effort? What is your relationship for? The love in your relationship doesn't generally disappear overnight; it's erodes slowly over time. And once the love fades in the relationship, it is very hard to regain.
So if you want to save your relationship, save the goodness of love first!
2. He/she doesn't respect you:
Disrespect is the only thing that violates a relationshipRespect is one of the most important aspects of any relationship! Disrespect is the only thing that violates a relationship. Behaviours such as insults, lying, cheating, hiding phone are all also a signs of disrespect.
If your partner is unaware about their hurtful behaviour, then tell them how their behaviour is making you feel, and see what happens. If he or she makes an effort to understand your perspective and tries their best to change their behaviour, then they seriously care about you, but if they dismiss your words and go back to the same behaviour, then it time to leave.
3. You are the one putting effort:
You both have to put equal effort! You alone cannot make things right. Relationships tend to work on a give-and-take basis even though true love is above such business-like arrangements. The give-and-take aspect should be fairly equal for both partners as it shows that both parties are willing to spend time and energy for the other.
When a relationship starts to deteriorate, it can feel like one person is doing all the work to maintain it. When that happens, take a big step back and see what happens.
If your partner copes up, then the possibility of re-aligning the loving energy still exists. However, if your partner gets angry or continues to drift further away, then you must think about breaking up.
4. You have trust issues:
Trust is the pillar of any relationshipTrust is the foundation of every relationship. It is the base upon which a relationship is built, and it is mistrust that often destroys it. Nothing weakens a relationship more than deceit.
If you trust him/her and they continuously break your trust, then it's not your fault, it's theirs. If you are in such situation, think twice before continuing.
5. Relationship is not a priority for him/her:
If he/she doesn't count as a priority then leave!Being busy with your work with not a bad thing but undermining your relationship for a long time because of it is simply not worth it.
If he/she is not willing to make some time for you, even through a quick phone call or text, then it is not a good trait of a positive relationship.