Marriage is a completely different life, with new people and new relations. One should enter the institution of marriage cautiously. Both the partners should discuss with each other all the pros and cons and promise that they will try their best to remain in this sacred institution no matter what.
Breaking is easy. But when the bricks of your married life fall, it affects your reputation, your health, your entire life and your family as well. So, it's better to think twice or thrice rather than taking a hasty decision and regretting it later.
Here are a few questions you should ask yourself before you get married.
1. Imagine yourself with that person in your old age
Being with one person for the rest of your life means total commitment. You cannot have any other intimate relationship. So, ask yourself if this is the one you want to grow old with. Think before getting married.
2. Do you know your partner well enough?
Just ask yourself, how long have the two of you actually known each other? Two months or two years? Yes, spending more time together is very important. The more you spend your days together, the better you know each other.
3. Do you want kids after marriage?
Not everyone wants to take this responsibility. People today love their freedom so much that bringing a child into the world seems to be a big thing. So, ask yourself if you are ready to have kids and if you could be a responsible parent, otherwise you will disappoint your partner after marriage.
4. Can you adjust in a joint family?
Yes, this leads to major fights after marriage when one of the partners refuse to adjust in a joint family and force the other one to stay separately. Ask yourself this question before getting married, please. Can you share your space with your in-laws or relatives or, would you prefer staying in a nuclear family?
5. Do you think you deserve better than this?
Are you sure he or she is the one for you or still have thought like you could have met a better person? Please ask yourself otherwise you will ruin one more life with yours. To be sure is better than to regret later.
6. Do you fight a lot even before marriage?
Fighting is normal, not fighting is abnormal. But, if you always fight about every little thing, then there is a problem. Please see, if those issues can be sorted out otherwise this continuous fighting would ruin your married life.
7. Are you ready to share your space?
Are your ready to share your room with your partner? Are you ok to spend your days and nights with another person under one roof? It's difficult for many so it would be better if you ask yourself this question and make sure you can adjust well and love your partner so much that you can share your space with them.
8. Do you have to be someone else in front of them?
If you think you always have to pretend to be someone who you are not, then you have to rethink about your marriage decision with that person. The one who doesn't accept you for who you are won't be able to spend entire life with you and you will also feel suffocated.
9. Does your partner respect your family equally?
It is also a very important question because these things affect you later in married life when your partner doesn't show respect towards your parents the way you show for his. This could ruin a married life and lead to divorce also.
10. Are both of you ready mentally and emotionally?
Marriage happens between two people so it is not about only YOU. You both need to discuss and share if you are ready for this big step. If any of you give hints about not being ready, then please wait. Ask your partner whether he is NOT ready for marriage institution or he doesn't want to get married to anyone right now?