Imagine your boyfriend and you are relishing a hot cup of coffee at your favorite cafe when he casually suggests you meeting his parents. It seems legitimate as you two have been together for quite some time and marriage is obviously on the cards.
The nod saves you at the moment but you are freaking out after reaching home. Deep in your heart, you must have questions 'why' and 'how' things will work out eventually. But let us assure you that if you do things right, bonding with your in-laws might not be as hard a task as you thought it would be.
These tips will help you figure out the answers to questions like 'how to bond with your in-laws', 'how to make your in-laws like you', and 'how to share a great relationship with your in-laws':
Here are 7 things that you can do to improve your relationship with your in-laws.
1. Give her company
Your mother-in-law is the first person you need to make sure likes you. Giving her your company is the most basic thing you can start off with. Once in a while, take her to the places she likes visiting. Given that every woman is unique and different in her own right, understand what she likes doing in her 'own time'. It could be a visit to her friend's house, a visit to her favorite restaurant or a maybe a stroll after dinner; these small things help in maintaining that natural bond with your mother-in-law.
2. Make them some food
As clichÃ© as this may sound, this move works most of the times. This applies regardless of whether you live in a joint family or a nuclear family-- whether you know how to cook or not, bonding over food works magic.
If you know how to cook, there's nothing like it and in case you are not too great with culinary skills, help your mother-in-law out in the kitchen by assisting her. Ask your mother-in-law to take rest and take charge of the kitchen and whip out something delicious and special for your in-laws. Again, do it only if you genuinely feel like doing it. Even if they don't love what you cooked, they will at least appreciate the effort you made for them.
3. Take them out
Take your in-laws out for shopping or a picnic for a change. Give them a relaxing outing, preferably to the places they like going to. If they like watching movies, take them out on a movie followed by lunch or maybe dinner maybe; if they would prefer unwinding at a spa or parlor, book them an appointment; or take them to a classical music show or a good theatre nearby. These may seem trivial things. But they ensure that your in-laws know that you are taking steps to create a loving bond with them irrespective of your inhibitions.
4. Go shopping for your mother-in-law
Yes, the magical word here is 'shopping' because women and shopping have a strong connection, plus it's always fun! If she's been planning to buy some home dÃ©cor for your new family or for herself, take her along to the market and shop with her. Even if she doesn't have any particular plans, you can still take her out to popular markets like Chandni Chowk or Sarojini Market (if you are a Delhite). Shop a bit, observe her taste and let her know your choices too. You never know if she ends up becoming your best shopping partner.
5. Share recipes
Nothing in the world can beat 'maa ke haath ka khana', right? And plus, all mothers love it when their kids go crazy over their cooking wonders. So why not ask for a recipe or two from your mother-in-law's amazing cookbook and let her know how you value it? Ask her about her favourite recipes, write them down, and someday, surprise her by making one for her.
6. Take their advice
As you're going to be their daughter-in-law, it becomes important to take advises for decisions from your in-laws too. They too don't want you to fall in any trouble, especially since mommies know the best! This doesn't necessarily mean that you need to take advice from your mother-in-law on every single thing. Just remember, whenever she comes forward to suggest something, be open to it.
7. Be honest with them
'Honesty is the best policy' stands true above all and is really important! A basic, transparent bond with your in-laws can only be created if you are open and honest with them. And moreover, this is the best way to get to know them and vice-versa. People don't realize this too often but sometimes, the smallest of things have the biggest impact on people.
Follow the above tips and cherish the bond you create with your future in-laws!