Marriage is one ritual which needs to be followed by the majority of people, whether you opt for love marriage or arranged marriage. The dichotomy between love versus arranged marriage has always made for an interesting issue to debate for. Most youngsters believe that the former is always a safer bet. But when it comes to parents -- the decision makers -- then the perspective doesn't remain the same.
We always dream of having a love marriage with the person who we actually know and love. But in most cases, we end up respecting the decision of our parents because the fact remains that 80 per cent of marriages in India still happens to be 'ARRANGED MARRIAGE'.
So in case you are worried that how you will get rid of the initial awkwardness with your partner, if you have gone for the arranged marriage, then here are some suggestions for your problem:
Do not depend on the opposite person to break the ice, you too can break it
Ideally, when you meet the person for the first time, the guy is supposed to break the ice. But there is no harm in you yourself doing the honors of breaking the ice. Same thing works in case of a boy if the girl you are speaking to is not outspoken. You both need to have a positive attitude when meeting for the first time.
Find your comfort zone
A marriage can only sound good if you both are comfortable with each other and if you have that understanding to accept each other. After all, every relationship demands comfort so that it can flourish. Try to meet that person at those places where you can find yourself comfortable. Once you create a comfort zone, it is more likely that both of you will open up to each other.
Speak about what you expect
We've been conditioned to believe that arranged marriages are mostly about compromises and sacrifices. You need to be open to that person with whom you will be settling for the remaining period of your life. It's an absolute false perception that if you're going in for an arranged marriage then you should have zero expectations from your spouse or the relationship. If we dig ourselves on realistic grounds, whatever your expectations are in terms of your personal life or career, convey them to your partner and listen to his too. You never know, this could lead to a successful marriage.
When the engagement happens
Time is the biggest problem in arranged marriages. Things happen so quickly that you yourself get stuck in that situation. From happy and peaceful conversations, things were flowing quite positive and then your parents decide to engage both of you. During such times, try and keep a little gap between engagement and marriage i.e. courtship period.
It is the most beautiful period of your life when things are clicking with you both. Try to give at least 4-5 months of gap between your engagement and marriage.